There was no way I could read this post from Thought Catalog and not repost it. With Spring around the corner, and a steady rise in couples breaking up ( I’m about 90% sure it is due to the winter fling theory) this article, incredibly written by Brianna Wiest could not have come at a more perfect time. I’ve honesty never read a better piece of writing on the topic. I love when Universes collide. Enjoy!
“We all start as strangers,
but we often forget that we choose who ends up a stranger too.”
It’s interesting to think about how we make people who used to be everything into nothing again. How we learn to forget. How we force forgetting. What we put in place of them in the interim. The dynamics afterward always tell you more than what the relationship did — grief is a faster teacher than joy – but what does it mean when you cycle out to being strangers again? Because you never really stop knowing each other in that way. Maybe there’s no choice but to make them someone different in your mind, not the person who knew your daily anxieties and what you looked like naked and what made you cry and how much you loved them.
When our lives revolve around someone, they don’t just stop revolving around them even if all that’s left is the grief and pain that comes with their memory. Because you loved them, there will always be parts of them that linger. The memories that are impressed on the places you went and the things you said and the songs you listened to will remain. We all eventually find ourselves standing in the checkout line, hearing one of those songs come on and realizing that all of a sudden, we’re revolving around them again. And maybe we never stopped.
Do you ever really forget your lovers’ birthdays, or all your first times, intimate and not? Do your anniversaries ever become normal days of the year again? Are the things you did and promises you made ever really neutralized? Do they become void now that you’re broken up or do you decidedly ignore them because there’s simply no other choice? The mind tells you to go on, and forces your heart to follow suit I guess.
I want to believe that you either love someone, in some way, forever, or you never really loved them at all. That once two reactive chemicals cross both are changed. That the wounds we leave in people are sometimes too raw to risk falling back into them. I don’t want to believe that we write each other off because we simply don’t matter anymore. I know love isn’t expendable. I wonder, and maybe hope, if we ever just force it to be out of that necessity.
Maybe it’s just that we’re all at the centers of our own little universes, and sometimes they overlap with other people’s, and that small bit of intersection leaves some part of it changed; that’s where we grow together. The collision can wreck us, change us, shift us; sometimes we become eternally undetachable and connected and other times we decidedly move away because the change required to accept another person’s universe colliding with yours is a safety we don’t want to leave. Either way, it’s inevitable that your universe expands. That you’re left knowing that much more about love and what it can do, and the pain that only a hole in your heart can bring. Whether or not that hole will ever again include the person who made it that way, that’s for you to decide.
We all start as strangers. The choices we make in terms of love are usually ones that seem inevitable anyway. We find people irrationally compelling. We find souls made of the same stuff ours are. We find classmates and partners and neighbors and family friends and cousins and sisters and our lives intersect in a way that makes them feel like they couldn’t have ever been separate. And this is lovely. But the ease and access isn’t what we crave. It isn’t what I’m writing about right now. It isn’t what we revolve around after it’s gone. We are all just waiting for another universe to collide with ours, to change what we can’t ourselves. To fill us, to make us whole. It’s interesting how afterwards, we realize that the storm returns to calm, but the stars are always changed and we don’t choose whose collisions change us. We all start as strangers, but we often forget that we choose who ends up a stranger too.
Artist Phillip K Smith III took a 70-year old wooden cabin in the California High Desert, added mirrors to the wood structure for an art piece that gives the illusion of transparency. Named “Lucid Stead,” the cabin’s optical illusion is impressive both in photos and in film. LEDs compliment the exterior during the evening by illuminating the interior.
On the weekend of October 12th in Joshua Tree, California, artist Phillip K Smith III revealed his light based project, Lucid Stead. What was expected to be a two day event for a handful of viewers, turned into over 400 people making the journey over two weekends. People as far away as New York City and Canada traveled to the California High Desert to experience it. Numerous media sources have asked to do cover stories on the work. Thousands of photos professional and amateur, were taken, posted and shared across blogs and social media sights. In just over 30 days, Lucid Stead officially became a phenomenon.
Composed of mirror, LED lighting, custom built electronic equipment and Arduino programming amalgamated with a preexisting structure, this architectural intervention, at first, seems alien in context to the bleak landscape. Upon further viewing, Lucid Stead imposes a delirious, almost spiritual experience. Like the enveloping vista that changes hue as time passes, Lucid Stead transforms. In daylight the 70 year old homesteader shack, that serves as the armature of the piece, reflects and refracts the surrounding terrain like a mirage or an hallucination. As the sun tucks behind the mountains, slowly shifting, geometric color fields emerge until they hover in the desolate darkness. This transformation also adapts personal perception, realigning one’s sensory priorities. A heightened awareness of solitude and the measured pace of the environment is realized.
Smith states, “Lucid Stead is about tapping into the quiet and the pace of change of the desert. When you slow down and align yourself with the desert, the project begins to unfold before you. It reveals that it is about light and shadow, reflected light, projected light, and change.”
Phillip K Smith III received his Bachelor of Fine Arts and Bachelor of Architecture at the Rhode Island School of Design. He draws inspiration from the reductive logic of minimalism and the optic sensation of California’s Light and Space movement. Smith’s innovation and exploitation of new technologies keeps these ideologies current. He was honored as the 2010 Artist in Residence at the Palm Springs Art Museum and was included in the exhibition, Smooth Operations: Substance and Surface in Southern California Art, alongside artists such as Peter Alexander, Larry Bell, DeWain Valentine, and Craig Kauffman at the Museum of Art and History in Lancaster CA. He has been asked to return to the museum for a solo exhibition opening in January 2014. He has been commissioned to create over a dozen monumental art works and his light based sculptures are collected Nationwide. Phillip will open a solo exhibition of lightworks at royale projects : contemporary art in Palm Desert on November 29 2013. His work will be featured at UNTITLED art fair in Miami opening December 1st.
For more info visit: http://www.lucidstead.com
Yes, we are talking of the bow tie. I can hear you from here: “Thank you very much, but I don’t really want to look like a waiter!” – “Bow ties aren’t hip”. Well, I have been wearing bow ties for several years now, before many brands started commercializing them.
I remember that people used to give me odd looks. They were probably thinking that I was slightly bonkers. Never mind, I kept wearing bow ties, only occasionally at first, eventually quite often, even at the office.
I would like to prove to you that one can wear a bow tie in a fun way, without going overboard. They are found in many colors, motifs and fabrics today, and some are really unusual (as you will see).
The good thing is that it can be worn with almost everything. It is traditionally worn with a tuxedo on formal occasions.
Yet, in daily life, a bow tie can be worn with jeans or pair of sneakers for example, or with more formal shoes if you are going for a dandyish look.
Our friend Alexandre (from Cinabre) often wears bow ties with jeans and a pair of shoes from the Veja store.
The only rule is to wear it with a button down shirt and pay attention to the size of the collar compared to the bow tie: neither too small, nor too large. And if you have a brawny build you can wear a larger tie.
A bow tie can be worn with a V-shaped sweater, a cardigan, a blazer, etc. Be careful with waistcoats as you may end up looking like a maître d; it’s dangerous terrain.
The most skeptical may choose something discreet, in matching tones, or the classic black bow tie to start. Once you are familiar with the accessory, do not hesitate to play with colors and motifs, to give it more of an edge (it’s important to have fun).
Colorful bow ties will also fit better with simpler outfits, like a simple Chambray shirt:
In short, it’s much easier to wear that one may think. You may easily include it in your outfits from time to time whilst remaining in keeping with your personal style. For example, it is a very good accessory to enhance quality basics and bring a touch of originality without being flashy.
Prices vary between 10 and hundreds of Euros. You will understand that this depends on the fabric, the quality of confection and the choices of personalization (made-to-measure).
Stores like Zara offer bow ties at very reasonable prices (around 15-20 Euros). The goal is not to spend too much on an accessory that will only be worn occasionally (at least at the beginning).
It’s worth knowing that second-hand stores are also a good place to find bow ties. I have sourced some for just a couple of Euros. So you can buy two for the price you would pay at Zara for only one.
Before buying a bow tie, you need to know that it cannot be worn with any shirt collar. You certainly have in your closet shirts with French or Italian collars. La Comedie Humaine – the subject of a recent Bonne Gueule article – clearly explains the difference between existing collars.
Do put aside shirts with Italian and English collars that are not suitable for bowties, practically and esthetically. This is because of the need for balance between collar and tie
The French collar is the one that should be prevalent in your wardrobe. It is the standard collar for wearing bow ties. It is adapted to all sizes: slim, normal, thick.
The narrow collar is less common for men but it goes very well with slim bow ties. Once you get used to it, you may try other sizes of ties to sharpen the appearance of your neck. It’s a matter of taste.
The Claudine collar is making a slow appearance in male shirts and gives an original touch because of its rounded edge. I recommend that you wear a slim or normal bow tie with it in order not to hide the collar’s main feature (it’s rounded edges). I can guarantee that the stylistic effect is great!
The wing collar is used on shirts worn with a tuxedo. If you wish to be very chic and formal, choose a small or normal-sized bow tie. Don’t hesitate to choose a patterned tie to appear more offbeat, we are not at the Oscars!
Once you have chosen your shirt you will need tie your bow. De Fursac explains this very well here.
There are mainly two types:
The pre-tied are the most commonly found because they are easy to use. They are mainly low-end. They have two straps to fasten the ends.
The self-tie can be adjusted to the shape of the neck like shirts. They are more prevalent at the high-end of the market since they are perceived and more authentic.
Let’s go back in time…
At the beginning of the 19th century men wore a thin white neckband made of linen. The knots made with the neckbands are the ancestors of today’s bow ties. Men started draping the neckband around the neck several times and tied the ends in a knot whose folds did not fall on the shirt. Beau Brummel, the arbiter of fashion at the court of George IV and the spiritual father of dandyism used to display this symbol of English elegance.
Beau Brummel in a movie adaptation wearing a pre-bow tie
It is in France that this knot took the shape of a butterfly. It is said that it was so called in honor of Puccini following his success with “Madame Butterfly” in 1904. That was the beginning of the golden age of the bow tie. From Winston Churchill to James Bond, as in street wear, it has been worn by everybody; recently it is being reborn. Designer Alexis Mabille turned it into his trademark.
The BHV Paris department store decorated by Alexis Mabille for the Christmas holidays
A picture is worth a thousand words.
If you think more along ‘geometric’ lines, the guide by Cinabre will help you to understand even better:
A video may be even better…It is not more difficult than a necktie.
Following our brief history lesson, let’s come back to our butterflies. Here is a selection of bow ties that should please all budgets.
Le Flagolet is a young brand that crafts its bow ties in a traditional manner. They cater for all tastes and colors and offer a wide variety of materials (toile de Jouy, velvet, denim…) Note that they make to measure for special occasions. You will pay around 30 Euros for a self-tie. Take advantage of the affordable price!
These are normal-sized bow ties
A very attractive bow tie in toile de Jouy
Monsieur London are two entrepreneurs who are particularly sensitive to the respect for traditional savoir-faire and hand-made traditions (with also a commitment to sustainability).
Their philosophy is based on a passion for beautiful fabrics and elegant products. I selected this pre-tied model made entirely of silk. It is hand-made in England.
This costs precisely 40.80 Euros; it is good value for money bearing in mind the materials used and the know-how. It needs to be worn with a plain shirt to avoid an excessively colorful look. You may, nevertheless, be daring and choose a shirt with a different color collar.
Another brand caught my attention: Balzac Paris; they specialize in made-to-measure. You choose your fabric and put your order directly with the seamstress. You will get an authentic bowtie for 40 to 50 Euros.
I loved this particular bow tie. In reversible velvet, it appears refined when used in black, or more offbeat but still discreet and elegant in gray. A perfect bow tie can be an impressive item for a New Year’s party.
Let us now look at Forage. This American brand was founded in 2000 and specializes in marbled materials. If you look at this bow tie it comes across as quite close to nature. All their bow ties are hand-made and should be worn with plain shirts to avoid overwhelming patterns; ideal for jaunts in the forest from 50 Euros.
Back in France with Cuisse de Grenouille and this knitted bow tie. It is easier to find knitted neckties but the technique works for bow ties too. To be worn with plain, striped or patterned shirts.
Cinabre are the essence of French luxury. The finish is hand-made; this model is striped, with red twill. Your name can be added by hand to the item. The price of 85 Euros is steep but the work behind it is quite impressive.
Self-tie bow tie
You may think that 85 Euros is a lot for a bow tie and I can understand that. Let us then end with another designer
I am keen to introduce you to this Parisian designer who specializes in bow ties. I appreciate the originality of Laurent Desgrange, its slightly “wicked” side and the mastery of French savoir-faire (his workshop is in Paris). In my opinion he is the rebel of the bow tie. I chose this 100 % cotton Bandana black paisley bow tie because it is very unusual; it costs 45 Euros.
If you are a fan of Monopoly, you may prefer this model:
What you need to remember to wear a bow tie:
Niels Peeraer’s A/W 2013 collection of leather bags, caps, and headpieces draws inspiration from traditional Chinese opera. The designer, known for his story telling collections, attempts to tell the tale of a lonely boy in a beauteous set of minimalistic but palatial accessories – ‘there is no limit to cuteness’.
For more information, visit www.nielspeeraer.com
The definition and form of time as an object have been upset. Since the advent of the cellphone, the watch’s primary function has completely transformed. There are still many features that can make a watch a very precious item, even reaching 7 figures in price; but today, the gap is being narrowed with the arrival of a new timepiece category, a concept launched by Bissol with its Calibre 788.
This new player is taking to the market with an offbeat and innovative concept: making the iPhone 5 into a timepiece unlike any other. Bissol’s Calibre 788 will be the first timepiece in the world exclusively developed for Apple’s iPhone 5, yet more proof that Apple has really revolutionized the world of mobile telephony.
This timepiece accessory is attached to the bottom of the iPhone, allowing you to get the time without turning on or unlocking your phone, and by the same token letting you save battery life.
As for technical details, this Calibre 788 has a Swiss quartz movement with 5 rubies and offers a further feature, the reading of the lunar phase. Everything is made to be very similar to the iPhone’s aesthetics, with anodized aluminum casing, gold, and painted sapphire crystal for both the white and black versions of the iPhone. Will future colored versions be arriving at Apple? No word on that for the moment.
Louis Vuitton is muscling in on the leopard print with an iconic video in purest pop style that celebrates the leopard spot so dear to Italian designers.
Today, we can show you the new video “Stephen Sprouse in Leopard” which takes it back to 2006 when Marc Jacobs asked famous designer Stephen Sprouse to create a collection that was fresh, pop, cool and very contemporary. This is how the famous prints were born and this time Louis Vuitton
is using graphics from the past to introduce the collection of the present.
So here is a palette of digitalized neon colors that smear across your screen with dynamism and energy. What do you think of the total leopard bag?
Merging is a collaboration between Masha Reva and Sychrodogs that examines our situation within the visual stream we deal with every day – the amalgamation of virtual reality and boundless information field that is the internet. A fascinating study of the superficial realities we construct of ourselves on the web …
Indeed, I find it very interesting … from one point it is related to the layering of information within our mind, from the other, it has a certain connection with print. The principles laid within are over-information, adaptation and merging in the mass of images today.
I am focused on study of a personality being transformed in the process of developing various social connections and communication. On the other hand, I look on a human element that is certainly a part of a nature. This confrontation between natural and artificial, in my opinion, is an interesting theme to analyze.
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With the lines that separate fashion and technology becoming increasingly blurred, it’s no wonder the art of 3D printing is on the rise. Layer by Layer, the first of a two-part exhibition at the London College of Fashion explores the process of 3D printing within fashion. Providing an insight into the process, materials and application of the medium through a variety of designer’s printed pieces, it’s an exhibition that puts you very much on the fringe of the future.
For more information, visit: www.fashionspacegallery.com
Clearly Miley has transitioned her teasing technique to photo shoots, ’cause girl is dedicated to showing copious underboob and just a little bum in her latest photo spread for the May 2013 issue of V Magazine. (Side note: Only Miley could make butt crack chic.)
On her new sound: “I can never say that I don’t love ‘Party in the U.S.A.’ and that I’m not appreciative of it. It would like my dad saying that he hated ‘Achy Breaky.’ It’s what gives you everything that you have. I would never take it back.”
On her changing style: “I’m going to change, I’m going to be different, I’m going to do what I want to do. I chopped my hair and bought a pair of Docs and never looked back.”
BEYONCÉ KNOWLES is the new face of H&M, and we have the full campaign to share exclusively for the first time. The singer stars in the Swedish retailer’s new high summer advertisements, modelling a series of bikinis and beachwear inspired by her individual style. The singer also gave “personal input on the pieces seen in the campaign”, confirmed a representative for the brand.
The print and billboard images – which see her reclining on beach sun lounger and posing in swimwear by the sea – were shot by Inez van Lamsweerde and Vinoodh Matadin in the Bahamas earlier this year. The adverts will introduce the star: “Beyoncé as Mrs Carter in H&M” – tying in with the name of her upcoming world tour.
“I’ve always liked H&M’s focus on fun affordable fashion. I really loved the concept we collaborated on to explore the different emotions of women represented by the four elements – fire, water, earth and wind,” said Knowles. “It was a beautiful shoot on a tropical island. It felt more like making a video than a commercial.”
The summer campaign features swimwear and beachwear pieces – including a bikini from the H&M for Water collection, which raises money for WaterAid. The print adverts will launch alongside an accompanying television commercial – featuring a new Beyoncé song, Standing On The Sun.
“H&M’s summer campaign starring Beyoncé is an epic fantasy, with glamour, drama and also a sense of paradise,” said Donald Schneider, H&M’s creative director. “It was amazing to watch her on the shoot make it all look effortless – a quality that makes her such an icon for women around the world. The campaign is the essence of Beyoncé, and also the essence of H&M this summer.”