A few days ago, I changed my profile picture on Facebook.
The picture was taken on a particularly marvelous hair day and I hadn’t even thought twice about it. My makeup looked great, my skin was behaving, the lighting cooperated nicely. Whatever.
So why did I feel so weird posting it?
Well, friends, for the sake of disclosure…
It was a selfie.
Now you all see where I’m coming from, right? The stigma associated with that horrible ‘S’ word has justified my insecurities.
Maybe you’re rolling your eyes, like the girl in my Sociology class who made the argument that selfies were narcissistic. Maybe you’re cheering me on for having such candor, in which case I appreciate your support, but I really don’t think this is a praise-worthy confession (because, really, nothing I’ve ever done on Facebook has largely benefited humanity). Maybe you’re on the fence about selfies and what they convey about our society at large. Maybe you haven’t analyzed it that deeply and don’t care to. Maybe you’ve stopped reading because using an entire article to discuss the selfie stigma seems superfluous to you. And maybe, you’re right.
But if you’re like me, and you enjoy feeling and looking nice, this discussion has broader implications. In my opinion, there isn’t anything superficial or narcissistic about taking pride in your appearance. In fact, confidence in how you look is important, whether we want to say so or not. So why are we ashamed of looking and feeling “pretty” and wanting to present ourselves accordingly?
Girls are taught a million horribly contradicting maxims their whole lives (through parents, the opposite sex, the media, etc.). “Be innocent, but sexy!” “Look young, but mature!”. Not to get totally ridiculous here, but if I were to conform to every one of societies suggested ‘girl’ tropes, I would be sporty, thin, intellectual, unassuming, curvy, unintimidating, sexy, powerful, muted, passive, dangerous, outspoken and easily coerced. I would actually have to simultaneously deal with multiple personalities, body types and levels of sexual experience to be the ‘perfect girl’ defined in Generation Y.
“Okay, neat. Cool feminist rant about male oppression and cultural flaws. What does this have to do with your stupid selfie problem?”
Everything, darlings. This has everything to do with the selfie problem.
If we’re always told to be all of these things, in just the right measures, how can we ever actually enjoy feeling attractive? The minute we admit to feeling aesthetically pleasing we’re being overconfident. So, whether we’re having a day when the face is our last priority, or if we’re having a Tyra Banks approved “good-god-I’m-hot” moment, we feel like we’re doing something wrong. We cannot win. This is why the selfie has long been condemned… it perpetuates the idea that women shouldn’t put any stock in their physical facade. Meanwhile, dressing down and not messing with our eyeliner renders us “uggos” who really should have considered everyone else’s impression of us when getting ready this morning.
I’ve never seen the shame in feeling good about how you look. Never has walking down the street loving my outfit made me less intelligent, less driven, more inwardly focused, or big headed. Never has strutting a little bit made me feel cheap, or like I was setting back the female empowerment movement. No amount of makeup has ended Women’s suffrage and, as far as I can tell, taking an occasional selfie certainly hasn’t lessened a ladies pay any further.
I take pride in my appearance, (most days… I mean, I’m not above occasionally leaving the house with toothpaste smeared on my face and rats nests congealing in my hair) and I don’t see why we should all be raised to fear that ‘pretty’ feeling.
Girls of every age, race, size, credo, sexuality, ambition and ‘look’ should enjoy feeling attractive the same way as men should, and celebrating this with a picture taken by yourself is a perfectly healthy way to tell the world that “I look good. I know it… and maybe I want Facebook to know it.”
So, live on, dear selfie. You give usefulness to the screen-side iPhone camera and you’re fun on a Wednesday night at 11 pm when my side-part looks inexplicably fabulous. You’ll always have a place in my camera roll.
“Hiyashi Chuka”, or chilled ramen noodles, is one of the most popular summer menus in Japan. It’s great for overcoming the humid summer in Japan!
“Gosh, I’m dying to eat some ‘Hiyashi Chuka’… but I only have instant noodles!”
Don’t worry, because…
“Sapporo Ichiban Instant Ramen noodle” can be changed into “Hiyashi Chuka”!
It is so simple:
1) Boil the noodles, then cool them with cold water (use a strainer to drain the water) and put the noodles on a dish.
2) Add some slices of roasted pork, cucumber, etc. (Tomato is also a nice topping)
3) To make the soup: Add 1 cup of water (1 Japanese cup= 200ml = 6.76 U.S. fluid ounces) to the soup powder that comes with the noodles and dissolve the powder in the water.
4) Pour the soup over the noddle and EAT!
By the way, it works well with “Sapporo Ichiban Salt Ramen” too!
Try it when you get that “Hiyashi-Chuka Urge”!
If ever there was a super lady who knew how to rock a red lip it’s Wonder Woman. #SummerOfKryolan kicks off with me sitting Bonks, comic book writer and Co-Founder of Sugar Gamers, down and turning her into a powerful Amazon. Check out the video tutorial below by our Chicago Makeup Vixen Kat DeJesus. A written breakdown of all the steps are below.
Have fun, Hera commands it! – See more at: Sugar Gamers #SummerofKryolan
Prep the face with HD Primer concentrating on the T-Zone. Then Prep the eyes with Eyeshadow Primer. Only use a very small amount a little goes a long way!!!
Products used: Kryolan HD Face Primer, Kryolan Eye Shadow Primer
Place peach tone eyeshadow on the eyelid using a small eyeshadow brush. Next, using a tapered fluffy tapered crease brush blend a lighter than skin tone eyeshadow onto your brow bone and in the inner corner of the eye. With the same brush, sweep a medium brown (contour color) into the crease. Then, with the same brush, place darkest brown eyeshadow into the outer V of your eye. (Remember the “Outer V” is the outside corner of the eye where your lashes meet your crease. Sweep the shadow in a small V shape in that corner)
Pour a drop of eyeliner sealer onto your cake liner and mix. Start lining the eye, with a super thin eyeliner brush, near the inner corner of the eye till the end of the eyelid. Try to get as close to your eyelashes as you can. To wing the eye, start by placing a tiny dot where you want your eyeliner to end. Draw a line toward your eye as if your were connecting it to your bottom lashes stopping as soon as you reach your top lashes and connect it to the eyeliner on the top of your eyelid.
Using a pea sized amount of an HD Matifying Liquid, apply to the the face is short, even strokes to the face with a flat tapered foundation brush. Make sure the foundation looks blended. There should not be any brush strokes visible. With a concealer brush, place a small amount of la concealer a shade or two lighter than your skin tone under your eyes and blend into your foundation. Using a concealer that matches your skintone cover any blemished that you might need extra coverage.
Next place a light pink blush on the apples of the cheeks with a blush brush and blend till you don’t see any lines. Set makeup and concealer with a translucent loose powder.
Products used: Kryolan HD Micro Foundation Matifying Liquid 110, Kryolan HD Micro Foundation Cream in 200 and 340 (for concealer), Kryolan Blusher in TO, Kryolan MicroSilk Translucent Powder in MSP 11
Line and fill in lips with a blue red lip liner. Lip liner gives the perfect definition to a red lip. Then fill in lips with your favorite red lipstick.
Curl lashes with a lash curler BEFORE applying 2 coats of mascara. Finally fill in brows with a shadow the same color as your hair color for added definition.
Products used: Illamasqua Eyelash Curler Illamasqua Mascara in Raven
Now go look in a mirror and flex those Super Hero Muscles! You look fabulous!!!
How much energy is consumed while making love? If you consider that two hours of golf use 71 calories, while simulating a convincing orgasm for 19 seconds uses 160, you can see that sex is the more enjoyable and more effective form of exercise and with a little care you can even practice outside. Weather permitting.
Given that the dress rehearsal looms, it is time to stop beating around the bush and brush the mothballs off the snake skins, the leopard skin bodysuits, swishing silks, g-strings, and with a program of preventative stretching and new batteries in the vibrator we are ready to face the new diet from prof. Richard Smith, “The Dieter’s Guide to Weight Loss During Sex”.
Starting gets you half way there, so let’s begin with personal care.
-Taking a shower uses 8 calories – 2 more than having a bath – and drying your hair with a hairdryer uses 3.
-Moving to the Living room and plumping up the pillow cushions, lighting the candles, scattering some poetry books here and there to (show that you are not only excited by spicy sauces) will use 42 calories.
After you’ve set the mood and prepared yourself, you can start to get a bit more intimate.
-For a delicate kiss you burn about 5-10 calories, 17 for a more impetuous one and 18 for a french kiss.
- Caressing your partner uses 10 calories. 17 for a massage and 19 with a deep embrace them.
See for yourself, we’ll wait…..
-A basic striptease uses about 55 calories, a belly dance 100.-To get undressed in the summer you use 3 calories, but in the winter you need 25 ( more clothes/ layers).
-Finding out your partner is the wrong sex 100. If the discovery does not shock you, you will use a quarter of that.
-Even oral sex has its place: on average the task requires 27 calories. 200 if you are really cold at it.
Deciding on which position is important too. Professor Smith correctly underlines the fact that the Royal Academy of Tibet counts more than 860 positions, but if you are a bit arthritic and you’ve had a too much to drink will find that 859 seem impossible.
30 minutes of sex burns 85 calories or more. It may not sound like much, but it adds up: 42 half-hour sessions will burn 3,570 calories, more than enough to lose a pound. You can add even more if you do the deed somewhere other than in bed:
-38 on the saddle of a Vespa.
-24 close to the aisle in an airplane
-100 in the toilet
-50 in a hammock
-14 if you are standing up in a telephone booth
- 274 if you are lying down.
-Changing position will make you use 16.
-Erotic fantasies can use between 15 and 35 calories.
And finally… the orgasm! A real one uses 27 calories, faked 160. Just before it you will use 500, and just after only a quarter of a calorie .
You might fall asleep. if it happens after making love, you will consume 18 calories, but if you fall asleep during, 32. If you fall asleep in the kitchen, 5 calories.
Sudden and unexpected feelings like embarrassment or disappointment (such as “that’s it?”) consume energy too, between 15 and 60 calories.
Remember, cleanliness is next to godliness. If you feel like taking a shower afterwards, you will consume 7 calories if alone, 12 if you shower with your partner, 187 if the boiler breaks down ( the chick from the cold water burns a lot of them)
One thing you don’t want to burn calories on, the shock of finding our your pregnant before you’re ready. Even more so, that you caught something during your last excapade. Just imagine how many you would burn then, lol? So unless you’re ready to pop a bun out that oven, or spend your next few days crying at the doc office, please remember to be safe.
Kryolan Professional Make-up is proud to announce their partnership with Sugar Gamers, a Chicago-based community of trend-setting female gamers in the world of tech, fashion, beauty and above all, gaming. The world of beauty has been an enigma to geek-friendly folks for far too long. That’s why the Sugar Gamers were chosen to teach the Chicago geek chic community to be their own make-up pro in the #SummerOfKryolan. They will spend the summer dropping online tutorials, events, giveaways, and in person how-to’s to show you how dramatic make-up can fit into your day to day life in a simple and fun way.
If you have never heard of KRYOLAN, then let me blow your mind. Kryolan is probably the nerdiest of all makeup brands. They have been the official make-up used for movies like “Star Trek Into Darkness” (check out behind the scenes here) as well as Pirates of the Carribean and Cloud Atlas. Kryolan is high quality, professional grade make-up that takes it a step further than other international brands such as Mac and Makeup Forever by making their pro quality cosmetics readily available to the public, at affordable prices. You don’t need to be a make-up artist to get access to their best stuff. Kryolan totally shares the love.
Even though Kryolan is known for being used to create eye-catching theatrical make-up, they have a wide versatile selection of products that can be used for everyday looks.
BUT! Here’s the kicker- they currently don’t sell products online. But if you are local to Chicago you can visit KRYOLAN CITY CHICAGO AT 2034 NORTH HALSTED STREET. Ulrike, Clara, Lane, or Paula will assist you in helping you find the make up that’s right for you.
After a series of secret teasers of Rita Ora and Cara Delevigne that have been invading the internet since January, and after much commentary, we are now finally able to reveal, together with Hunger TV, the exclusive video Rita & Cara: Facemelt – The Remix.
Directed by Rankin, Hunger’s editor-in-chief, the video sees the top model Cara Delevigne dance, sing and dress just like her best friend Rita Ora, who appears beside her.
This is what Rita has to say about Cara, regarding the appropriation of her dirty video: “Cara is taking over my video and my life, and is basically taking over me – it’s quite impressive. She’s crazy like I am, so it makes sense. Having the most beautiful woman in the world in your video can’t be bad.“
“Facemelt” is part of a series of dirty videos from Hunger TV, along with other dirty videos including Iggy Azalea (Slo), Azealia Bank (Liquirizia Chick) and Cheryl Cole (Ghetto Baby). “Facemelt” is taken from Rita Ora’s first album “ORA”.
The Art of Packing from Louis Vuitton is the latest microsite from the brand teaching you how to pack your favorite (Louis Vuitton of course) bag with these expert tips.
Louis Vuitton’s luxury luggage branding ignites our desire to travel as often as possible. The series features the luggage purveyor’s new Zepher rolling suitcase.
A beautiful branded site and a genius ideas you could definitely learn from, even if you don’t have Louis Luggage
Creating terrifically human-like voices from finely calibrated vocoders, calling upon contemporaries like Pharrell Williams, Panda Bear and Julian Casablancas to contribute, and enlisting some of the 70s and 80s finest session players was the winning formula, a 4 year journey.
Apparently Williams and Daft Punk shared a moment of synchronicity – both citing Nile Rodgers (of disco band Chic) as inspiration for their work on the album, which Rodgers collaborated on as well. From the tidbits heard, it blends classic Disco and funk grooves with the French duo’s signature electro.
Until the full album is released on May 21, enjoy the first official release, “Get Lucky”.
DAFT PUNK – RANDOM ACCESS MEMORIES TRACKLIST
1. “Give Life Back to Music” (featuring Nile Rodgers)
2. “The Game of Love”
3. “Giorgio by Moroder” (featuring Giorgio Moroder)
4. “Within” (featuring Chilly Gonzales)
5. “Instant Crush” (featuring Julian Casablancas)
6. “Lose Yourself to Dance” (featuring Pharrell Williams and Nile Rodgers)
7. “Touch” (featuring Paul Williams)
8. “Get Lucky” (featuring Pharrell Williams and Nile Rodgers)
11. “Fragments of Time” (featuring Todd Edwards)
12. “Doin’ It Right” (featuring Panda Bear)
13. “Contact” (featuring DJ Falcon)
Available now on iTunes: http://smarturl.it/GetLucky
Review by: Ned Hepburn
“Overgrown” reminds me, on my fourth listen now in as many hours, of the inevitable passing of time.
Yeah, I know, usually I open up these kinds of reviews with a yuk-yuk joke or a ha-ha, but “Overgrown” is a mature-ass album. This album is so mature it is knowledgeable about wine. This album is so mature it moved in with it’s significant other and they are getting a dog. This album is so mature that it recently took a cooking class and knows how to make a good chicken stock (I swear, people always forget the backbone). This album is quietly, sexily confident, and totally (in)secure with itself.
There’s a difference between this album and, say, 99.9999999% of all the other albums released this year: this album will be remembered twenty years from now. Much like a good, classic suit or Ray Bans Wayfarers, this is just minimal enough, with enough clean lines, to last for a long, long time. Like all good albums, it somehow sounds futuristic without ever leaving it’s time period. Somehow James keeps his spaceship sound grounded and we’re left all the better for it – ”Retrograde” alone is one of the catchiest songs of the year – ”Voyeur” attempts (and succeeds!) at a wild new kind of dance music that is closer to an Issac Hayes ballad than it cares to admit – the whole album is dripping with originality.
It’s a work of art. This album is as good as Joni Mitchell’s “Blue”, to which it shares at least some musical lineage. Whereas one might not think to make the lyrics any good while making such forward thinking music, James turns in some of the best, most honest and simple poetry this side of… well, anything.
“Overgrown” is hands down a fantastic album and sets electronic music forward light years. I’m floored by this whole thing. It’s staggeringly, dogfuckingly good, and highly, highly recommended.
MS MR rules. I don’t know what they’re doing in their videos half the time, but I do know this: the shit is visually appealing. There’s so much going on with these guys all the time, lush sounds, beautiful people (mostly just Lizzie and Max), bright colors; what more could you ask for?
The featured song, “Hurricane”, is the sugar of the group’s EP “Candy Bar Creepshow”. The duo’s full length “Second Hand Rapture” is out May 14th.